Protect yourself from domestic violence

DIBYA SUBEDI/Cabell Midland

By Katlin Stinespring
Hurricane High School

October, which was Domestic Violence Awareness Month, has come and gone, but that doesn’t mean that teens should forget about the issue. It’s important to be aware of the dangers of domestic violence. Everyone has the potential to be affected by it, and teenagers especially should be made aware of how to protetct themselves before it’s too late.

Domestic violence centers on a need for power and control. An abuser will attempt to gain this control by forcing the victim to isolate him- or herself; threatening, bossing or intimidating them or emotionally, verbally or sexually abusing them.

Examples of these behaviors include forbidding the victim to spend time with friends, criticizing their appearance, pressuring them into sexual activity or threatening to hurt them or their friends and family.

Taking precautions can only benefit a potential victim. By thinking independently and mentally preparing for situations, potential victims can put themselves at an advantage. Also, it’s important to be aware of any situation, especially one that is new to you.

Do not be afraid to confide in someone or to speak up about your problems. Also, don’t be afraid to get away from uncomfortable and/or unsafe situations. Always trust your instincts in these instances. Your safety is the first priority, and you should never jeopardize it.

You should have a safety plan in case you find yourself in an unsafe situation, whether on a date or in a long-term relationship. And always carry a cell phone or spare change so you can call someone for help if necessary.

When going on dates, plan to spend time with the person in a public place or go on dates in groups until you feel comfortable individually. And when you are out in a public situation, never leave your drink unattended.

The most important factor in preventing or stopping domestic violence is never to fear speaking up about the situation. If you’re uncomfortable, hurt, scared or insecure in a relationship, tell someone. Speak with a friend, parent, guardian, counselor or other adult you trust. Do not ever feel like there is no one to talk to.

“It is vital for women to realize that domestic violence can happen to anyone, and that there is no longer any stereotype about who is affected by it,” said Hurricane High School English teacher Krista Fink.

If you are the victim of domestic violence, there are many ways for you to get help. Locally, you can contact the West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic Violence at 965-3552, the YWCA Teen Dating Program at 342-6552 or the YWCA Resolve Family Abuse Program at 340-3549. There’s also the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE.

If you have been raped or sexually assaulted, call Family Services of Kanawha Valley at 340-3676 or the Rape and Incest National Network at (800) 656-HOPE.